Three Ways Marrying Young Helped Our Marriage

wedding-3013449_1920.jpgMy wife Rachel and I married at the young age of 18.

No, we were not pregnant, and no we weren’t desperate either. The fact that those questions were raised by nay-Sayers says something about our changing culture.

Back in 1960 72% of all adults age 18 and older were married. In contrast, barely half of all adults in the United States are currently married. If this trend continues we will see an even further downturn in the coming years.

Anyways, being the “60’s couple” that we are, we met and dated at 16, were engaged at 18 and married a few short months later. We dated for a total of one year (“total” because we broke up for a couple of months, but we do not talk about that…)

All that to say we have seen that although marrying young has its difficulties, we have seen some significant benefits as well. As a disclaimer, marrying at any age is a beautiful thing. We just chose this path for us.

One: Financial Communication

Finances are a huge factor for a good marriage. When you disagree on money fundamentals, than you will have problems.

When you’re married before any significant “career” you tend to handle money loosely. You have not established much of a portfolio other than some savings and a vehicle. The simplicity of two hard-working young people coming together financially in marriage can yield great fruit.

I have met other couples who have become very established with bills, subscriptions, etc. before marriage. This isn’t a bad thing, but I have witnessed couples refusing to combine checking accounts simply because of “inconvenience”. I believe that when the Bible calls couples to be “one” that includes one bank account.

Simply said, starting with nothing and combining nothing allows both parties to contribute and grow financially together. And the sooner you establish financial oneness, the better.

Two: Emotional Baggage

Simply because of the passage of time, you will not have as may serious relationships beforehand. This does not apply to all couples, but sexual baggage is a significant issue in today’s day.

Toxic past relationships wreak havoc on the soul. If you are into “serial dating” as the phrase goes, you just date and date and date and date. No thought of marriage whatsoever. This is toxic.

I am not speaking of a serious relationship that have gone bad. Sometimes that is unavoidable. But rather I am speaking of a mindset many young people have of “test driving” a relationship before “purchasing” in marriage. This analogy is terrible on many levels.

Find another young person with the same general life outlook, love for Jesus, and love for you. If you like them and enjoy their company, maybe consider dating for maybe a year and marrying them shortly after? Is that a controversial thought? Maybe not 50 years ago.

Three: Worship Jesus Through the Highs and Lows

Marrying young is not frolicking through the fields, eating skittles, and talking about unicorns. That actually sounds pretty terrible, but that is me.

Marriage, no matter what age has its highs and lows. We are only three years in and we fight about the dumbest things. Can you relate?

The beautiful thing is that we have gone through so much in the most foundational years of our lives together. The human brain is not fully developed until age 25. We still have three more years of neuro-formation until our brains have matured into adults. We get to experience all of these developments and trials together!

The greatest of all is watching each other conform into the image of Christ. From finding a Church we both love, to struggling to learn how to pray together. The beauty is that we can look back in five years (at age 27 and 26) and see how we have grown to love Jesus and each other more and more through the struggle and joy.

It is not a burden to be married at a culturally young age. It is more difficult in many ways, but it is so rewarding! If you are married, when did you get married and how have you seen each other grow through the years?

 

 

 

 

 

 

A Job, a Church, and a Possible Apartment!

I went for a job interview yesterday for a construction company. Things went pretty well and I got a call-back that afternoon letting me know i was hired and to come and get forms to fill out. So i drove back and got everything i needed. I start Monday!

Rachel is still looking for work, she’s applied to Target and tax-468440_1920.jpgPetco as of today, so hopefully we’ll get a hit on that soon.

Our car is going to be (finally) done getting fixed and inspected, so it’ll be great to have a vehicle again!

Besides filling out pages and pages of paperwork (and of course gathering our tax information from VT and PA) we’ve been looking into an apartment nearby.

It’s a nice little place, I’ll be submitting our application today due to me finding a job. So that’s exciting! If we manage to get it, I’ll be sure to post pictures.

Also, we’ve found a nice Church in a nearby town. It’s a biblical Baptist Church called “Ridgeview Baptist”. The doctrine is solid and leadership welcomed us with genuine interest. So we’re thinking this may be our Church!

summit-cross-225578_1920.jpgIt’s quite scary to start a new life in a new area, but I know God will work in our lives and hearts and show us what we’re passionate about and hopefully after we pay off this student loan debt, we’ll pursue what God has for us vocationally.

For now, we’ll do our best to Glorify God right where we are, and see what He does with it.

Why Naturalists Have Worldviews Too

“…you can’t be successful and ignore science.” –Bill Nye

This bold statement by author, engineer, and TV host Bill Nye caught my attention in an article by National Geographic. In context he was asked about the “assault on science” referring to aforementioned young-earth creationists. But my question is, why is this an assault on science?

As I understand it, popular science believes the universe is (according to Space.com) 13.8 Billion years old. Why? Many reasons, but to mention two would be the way stars form and distant starlight. The first being the “measured” life cycle of a star, and the latter the amount of time light takes to travel a certain distance (i.e. if we they see a star X many miles away and light travels at the speed of Y, than they determine the time it took to get there).

So why is this an issue? How can these findings not be objective?

Let’s take a look at some different findings. In this article AIG puts forward some alternate theories and the Horizon Problem. Read that for yourself for more insight, but i find it very interesting.

So we have two scientists covering the same topic. So what gives?

They both have differing worldviews.

A naturalist only believes in things that are tangible. Things that can be seen, touched, and experimented on. If the supernatural “can’t” exist, then it only follows that you’d need natural reasons for everything. So when presented with evidence, a naturalist galaxy-10994looks and says “how did nature do this?” but when Theists look they say “God did this”. Which creates so many implications for the outcome of theories. If God created light, and he’s above nature, then it’s not an issue when we’re presented with these theories.

So naturalists have worldviews just like everybody else. And there are definitely problems with this worldview. Morality, for example. But that’s a whole other can of worms.
Though I know I’m not covering either side very in-depth, you can see that where you start changes where you end up. And that’s why you need to examine worldview when you dialogue with anyone, so you can know how to respond.

Thanks for reading!

This is an assignment for one of my college classes on worldview.

Presuppositions

We all have them.

Presuppositions, as the word implies, are pre-supposed ideas that effect the way we interact with evidence. Pre, meaning before, and suppose, meaning to interact with something in some way. So when i say we all have presuppositions, i mean we all have ideas and experience that will inevitably effect the way we interact with evidence.

Case in point: Age of the Earth.

Though this is a very “cliche” thing to use this illustration on, it makes sense and is helpful. When a Christian like grand-canyon-824332_1280myself comes to something like that grand canyon (and i know many Christians will disagree with this also) and sees all the rock layers and the beautiful river-formed canyon, i see a flood. A massive one. From the sky it actually looks like someone dumped a ton of water on a bunch of sand. My explanation? A massive amount of water coming from a global flood found in Genesis.

Now either a secular scientist or an old-earth creationist would look and see rock layers carved out slowly over millions of years by means of a river. And that river slowly carved out the mile-deep canyon we see today.

If you didn’t notice, i used a much shorter response for the latter perspective. Why? Because i cant relate to it! I believe in the first one, and therefore i have a unique perspective that can give more information. My previous ideas shaped my answer and perspective.

And why do i have these ideas? I came to that conclusion because I believe in a “young earth” view of genesis. I personally think it’s very clear and that the only reason some Christians believe in millions of years is because of secular science. If that science hadn’t been around, i doubt many Christians could pull millions of years exegetically from the text. Therefore i interpret evidence based on my foundation: Scripture.

In the next post i’ll tackle why Christians aren’t the only ones with a foundation by which they interpret evidence.

Thanks for reading!

WOL Reverb 2014 – a Weekend Review

One hour until we have to be at the Church. The cars alternator sits on the ground with misc. nuts and bolts all around as I pulled out the oil pressure switch and break the little rubber O-ring on accident.

It took me 15 minutes to find out I had the wrong part (I got the PCV valve, not the pressure switch), and then I had to go into town for a heat-resistant o-ring.

Fast forward an hour I got everything back together and we made it to the Church on time. My oil leak still dripping. (I now have the right part, and that problem is resolved)

Anyhow the teens and us leaders circled up for prayer and we started boarding the bus.

Our trip and the loud pre-teen conversation had begun.

The ride was relatively uneventful, we picked up a few more people at Price Chopper where the leaders decided to stop for dinner and breakfast for the next morning. Apparently my small group boys decided a dozen Mtn. Dews would be a good hydration choice along with pastries and candy. Well, it’s their money. Not my first choice though.

We continued along for a few more hours and you can imagine the kids about to explode from all the drinks they’d been chugging. Our driver (we’ll call him Aaron) agreed to stop for a quick bathroom break. Most of the 50 of us went into the tiny convenience store which turned out only had one bathroom. It was then announced we had 5 minutes until the bus left (to make things snappy).

It ended up to be around 20 minutes, but the greatest part of the story is that around 6 leaders were in the store chaperoning (some over 35) and the store owner walked out to the bus and asked for an older person to chaperone the kids! Aaron then said there were more than 6 in the store, to which the owner was quite surprised. Nothing was going crazy in the store, so we all got a kick out of it.

We then drove another hour and arrived at the hockey game, the first event of Reverb. We had to wait a bit to get in, but once we were in we found our seats quickly and sat down to enjoy the game.

After the game the speaker gave a gospel presentation and an altar call. I’m personally not a big fan of alter calls, but that’s a whole other post. The gospel was proclaimed and one of my small group boys went for discipling! So pray for him and I this youth ministry year as I disciple him in our small group and elsewhere.

During this time Word of Lifers (college students) were setting up games for the churches that had the largest attendance. The names were then called and we got 2nd in attendance! For 1,077 people in our church’s town, over 50 kids is a huge praise!

The games ensued and we didn’t win, but it was fun while it lasted. The selected of our group played games related to Marvel superheroes, so everyone loved it. After they played right and left side of the stadium games related to app games.

After all that we continued to drive to the next event a little ways away. It was a huge indoor gym area filled with a half football and soccer fields, dodgeball arena, badminton, inflatables, basketball, and much more! They served a buffet of pizza for all the hungry kids (and leaders) in the upstairs middle segment of the building. We played there for a few hours (from 12-3am Woo!) and then drove to candlepin bowling.

Bowling was quite an event, my personal highlight was getting a spare timed at the same moment of an epic part of Reds “Perfect Life”, kind of a geeky thing, I know.

After a long 2 hours of bowling we left for home, the ride was like being in a large sweat-filled cylinder with caffeine hyped kids refusing to crash for the night. It wasn’t all bad because my wife and I had a blanket to stay warm and somewhat comfy with as we took turns napping.

As the sun rose that morning I awoke to it from a 2-hour power nap feeling oddly refreshed. The other kids who had stayed awake talking all night were showing signs of finally needing rest, but by then we were almost there.

We arrived home at New Hope Bible Church and stepped off the bus into the cold, refreshing winter air ready to go home and sleep.

The trip was filled with good conversations, gospel proclamation, and connection with us leaders’ small groups. So even though we were all pretty dead for a day or two, we were able to pour into our youth for Christ, so I’d say that’s a weekend well spent.