Confrontation. We all hate it.
Well, maybe not all of us. Some like to make a point to confront just for the sake of causing conflict, while others confront for the sake of Biblical unity in Christ so as not to cause more disorder (or sin) in the future. While the latter my be the right motive, it still doesn’t make it easy.
As for me, communicating something is very difficult to do when you have no idea what said person is going to say or do (or if they’ll even care). But I’ve begun to think that it really doesn’t matter how someone responds, does it? Just as long as I believe I’ve articulated my concerns both Biblically and tactfully.
Let’s take a look at this Biblically: Take a look at Galatians 2:11-14 where Paul brings to light some issues with a few men who he names in the passage. Cephas “stood condemned” and Paul “opposed him to his face”. We know that Paul had a reason, because if Cephas wasn’t in sin, Paul wouldn’t be addressing it. We have a model for confrontation in this: namely you should say it to their face.
Though this seems to be more of a “descriptive” text rather than “prescriptive” I think it aligns well with other verses concerning this. We are to speak “the truth in love”. That means we must be truthful, but also tactful in how present truth (without compromising).
Another key text talking about this is found in Matthew 18:15-20.
Anyways, what brought this to mind is something my pastor challenged me with. Though I’m not confronting someone, I’m allowing someone to confront me about anything I may be doing wrong, or that could be doing differently or better. And it’s scary, to be honest. Allowing someone to be honest with you, and being open to what they say is humbling. And in my case, it’s the best thing possible.
Ah, life. Full of so many circumstances. All of which Christ will use for good, whether we like our present situation or not. But brooding on it won’t make it any easier, I have to trust Christ to give me the right words and to humbly listen to what they have to say. So pray for me!